What we focus on the most directly effects how we feel. Here is some advice to keep a more positive mental attitude in the midst of a very negative world: " ...you'll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious - the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not to curse." Philippians 4:8 The Message
Parenting Tip #1
"Parents, do not come down too hard on your children or you'll crush their spirits."
Colossians 3:21. The Message
Living with Teenagers
I know. I know. The title seems unreasonable. But the truth is that you can not only survive parenting teens but you can actually live with them. It isn't easy, but it can be done.
Teens are constantly pushing the boundaries and demanding more freedom - more freedom we as parents often feel comfortable in allowing them to have. As parents, it can feel like we are trying to learn how to drive a standard shift car. The problem is, we can't just give up and drive automatic!
You can learn how to communicate effectively with your teen. You may need to do some repair work in the relationship. And that repair work may need to be done by you first before your teen will be interested in even listening to what you say. Remember, you are the adult - lead the way!
A good way to learn the skills, develop the motivation and receive encouragement in your parenting is through an Active Parenting of Teens course. Developed by Dr. Michael Popkin, this class will help you learn what it takes to develop confident, responsible teens that can survive and thrive in the 21st Century. To find out more information concerning our next class or if you would be interested in sponsoring one, call us at (239) 220-9912 or CLICK HERE.
What if there are severe problems?
Sometimes, we are blind sided by issues our teens are involved in. Maybe there has been a suspension or expulsion from school, an arrest or you have found drugs in your teen's room. What then?
Maybe your teen has become combative, unresponsive to your attempts to communicate or has been defiant. It feels as if your teen has fired you as being their parent. How do you deal with that?
You know deep in your heart that to do nothing is only going to make it worse. The longer you put off getting some kind of help, it will only make the issues deeper and possibly more dangerous.
These situations require the help of a professional - not unlike when you need to take your car in for maintaince because you don't know how to work on a transmission! R. Michael Lowery, LMHC will be glad to sit down with you for a free consultation. Just call (239) 220-9912 or simply CLICK HERE.
